Condolences for Robert LaRue Bender

Cindy Somers posted on 6/16/22

I am shocked and saddened to see this! I met Bob through my father and had the pleasure of seeing him frequently at CLV while visiting my mother when she lived there and even recently at a United Way function. Bob was charming, kind and just easy to speak to! He will be missed by many...


Stacey Beatty posted on 6/7/22

Karen, Stephanie and Bob -- I'm so very sorry about the loss of your dad. Kind, funny, and thoughtful, it was always nice to see him when visiting at CLV. His friendship meant a lot to my mother, and I know he will be sorely missed by many many people there. May happy memories be of some comfort to you now.


Chuck Kelly, Jr. posted on 6/7/22

Once in a great while, if you're lucky, someone comes into your life, who makes everything better. Mr. Bender was that in our family, bringing smiles and hearty laughter. A founding member of the "Loons", a casual friends group that shared their love of the University of Illinois, both athletics and higher education, through several decades they travelled extensively and supported each other though losses. We are comforted by the thought that several of the Loon men are now buried together, and laughing together in heaven. RIP, Mr. Bender you were one of a kind.


Ron Eldridge posted on 6/1/22

to bob, stephanie, and karen. my deepest sympathy. sorry I could not make the services as we were in atlanta and could not change our plans. What a great guy your dad was. Always so positive, he uplifted everyone around him. I will forever treasure my memories of the times we had together on the gold course and other activities. He was also a wonderful mentor to my daughter leslie and son ron jr. I give him a lot of credit for helping my son get his college legs under him. I know he is holding hands with your mom right now.


Sue McCaslin Kainz posted on 6/1/22

Bob (I guess it isn't Bobby anymore as I remember you), Karen and Stephanie, my deepest condolences to you and your families for the loss of Bob. One of my favorite memories was staying with your folks in 1982 as we made our way to CA by car and camper. He took us to see the university and we barbequed. It was always a special treat to see any of you. Bob really gave me a hard time when Penn State joined the Big 10. But it was always in good fun. I didn't have a lot of interaction with your family because of distance and me being younger. You were all out of the house by that visit. But the few interactions we had were always the best and fondest for me. And I think of your folks every time I use the crockpot they got us 27 years ago for our wedding. I just can't bring myself to part with it for a more advanced model because I always think of them. Sending all my love and hugs. Sorry we couldn't be there.


Joan Percival posted on 5/29/22

My deepest sympathy to Stephanie, Bob and Karen as well as their family members. My daughter Jeannise was so fond of Bob and always enjoyed their conversations. I know he will be missed by all of you. He is in heaven now with Jeannise as she welcomes him.


Chris, Cindy, Skylar, Kylie, Kendall and Danika Shepherd posted on 5/28/22

Sending you all loving thoughts and prayers through this very difficult time. May the memories you hold close to your hearts help you find some peace.


Elaine Washington Harmon posted on 5/28/22

I had the pleasure of knowing Bob through his wife Ann. Ann and I taught together in Urbana. We had an inside joke that I would come and stand in his yard and call him Dad (and I did once). He was a great person, always helping Ann at school. We had great talks together. He was always proud of his children, he talked about them often. I am just glad I had the distinct pleasure of knowing him. Your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.


ClarkLindsey Waitstaff posted on 5/28/22

I was only a server at Clark Lindsey but I will remember Mr. Bender as a young, sweet, kind man with a fun heart. Your family at clv sends our condolences.


Beth (Dahl) Rodriguez posted on 5/27/22

Bob, Stephanie, and Karen, your Dad was the best! Your parents were a staple in David’s and my childhoods. Deepest sympathies to you all.


Steve & Diane Senteney posted on 5/27/22

Our condolences to the Bender family. He and Ann were a terrific couple. We were/are very close friends and neighbors of Paul and Mary Rogers. So of course we became friends with Bob and Ann. We talked with Bob last summer at Paul Rogers burial and sat with him at the after burial gathering at Homer Lake. We always enjoyed the time we spent with him and Ann. Bob's wide range of interests and his well founded knowledge made for pleasant conversation. He had a keen sense of humor which everyone enjoyed. He will be missed by many.


Dick Knieriem posted on 5/27/22

When Bob refused to move his golf ball when it was behind a tree while his other foursome (including myself) used whatever means to improve our shot, I knew I was in the presence of high integrity. Bob was a wonderful friend and a life model for all. My condolences to his family.


Dick Buzicky posted on 5/27/22

I met Bob through our Wednesday care givers meetings. His wisdom and compassion made him a key member and a friend to all. He will be missed greatly.


Rick Bender posted on 5/27/22

Uncle Bob used to wrestle with us on the floor and want to check if our bellybutton was tight, because if it wasn’t he said our bottoms would fall off. Lol


Steve Schomberg posted on 5/27/22

Bob was a mentor and friend who guided me through my early years at Illinois. His knowledge of higher education in Illinois was unequaled and I credit my success in forming relationships across the state to him. We send our condolences to family and friends.


Mark Memler posted on 5/26/22

My sincerest condolences to the entire family. Bob was always kind and had great wisdom in all parts of his life. I will remember him fondly.